Spice Up Your Sex Life With Pheromone

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Release Resistance

One of the 3 conditions for deliberately attracting more of what you want is to 'allow the Universe to give you what you desire'. Resistance can take many forms as you will see as you read this story from Suzie Dawson.

Suzie writes:

During a recent one-on-one coaching session with Rebecca, I had a major breakthrough. For the past 2 years, I have had a challenge holding my pen as I write. I could not get comfortable with the grip. It was either too loose or way too tight (usually the latter). Rebecca suggested that I loosen the grip and let it flow. She sensed that something was trying to be expressed through me. I responded that when I just let it flow, my pen goes all over the place and my writing is very messy. She said, "This is good! It doesn't have to be tame or pretty, just let the energy flow through you."

This advice has changed my life! As I sat down at the computer recently to do my e-newsletter, I noticed that I was feeling blocked. It occurred to me that I should try writing out the article, instead of typing it. As soon as I began with pen in hand, the words just immediately flowed through me. After sending the newsletter out, I received the most positive feedback yet!

This has also carried over to other areas of my life. Since I have loosened the grip on my pen, I have also loosened the grip on the rest of my life. It has been incredibly freeing!

"Our outside world is a reflection of our inside. If you want to change your business or your life, start by looking inward."

Good for Suzie!

Sarah Meets Wayne Gretzky - And A Lifelong Dream Is Fulfilled

Sarah is so excited! Her whole body is jiggling up and down as she tells me, "Wayne Gretzky and Janet came right up to me. I told Janet I saw her in a movie while 'The Great One' gave me his autograph." I'm excited for Sarah! As her mother, I know that she has just received a lifelong dream--to get 'up close and personal' with her hero.

Sarah is my special daughter. When she was born, almost 25 years ago, the doctors told me she would never be able to live on her own. They said she was retarded and would not be able to do many of the things most people take for granted. Indeed, she has Down's syndrome, but the doctors were way off about her capabilities. She is a very independent young woman, has a job that pays 'real money', lives on her own and decorates her apartment to suit her tastes--with life-size Wayne Gretzky posters, two autographed photos, a huge LA Kings banner that she bought when he was with that team and tons of other Gretzky paraphernalia.

She has been a faithful fan of 'number 99'. She followed him from Edmonton, to LA to where ever her 'guy' was playing--glued to the TV during playoffs and proud each time his team won the Stanley Cup. She has made scrapbooks and written letters to let him know that she thinks he is the BEST!

So, is it any wonder that the Law of Attraction brought Wayne Gretzky to Victoria, BC? We first realized he was in town one Saturday night, when we read in the newspaper that he had played golf in a celebrity tournament. "Too bad we didn't realize Wayne would be in Victoria," I lamented, as we poured over the photo of him swinging his golf club. We both assumed we had missed a golden opportunity to see him in person.

But the next morning, as I walked through the Inner Harbor, I noticed an abundance of expensive cars and limos waiting in front of the Empress Hotel. It took me a couple of minutes to figure it out--that the vehicles were waiting to take all the celebrities to the airport--but once I did, I knew exactly what action to take.

Using my cell phone, I called Sarah and told her, "If you want to see Wayne Gretzky, throw on some clothes and ride your bike down here as fast as you can. And bring paper and pen to get his autograph." I continued walking to my destination--saying a little prayer, "Please, keep Wayne from leaving until Sarah can get there." I'm sure she was 'flying' as fast as she could pedal.

Later she told me that Wayne and his family came out of the Empress Hotel right at the same moment she arrived on her bike. He was working the crowd and walked right up to her, asked her name, signed his autograph while Sarah made mention of Janet's part in a movie.

I asked her, "Sarah, was it as good has you had imagined? Or better?"

"Better," she grinned. "Much better than I ever imagined."

You know, if the Universe would go to such lengths to satisfy Sarah's lifelong wish, then NOTHING is too difficult. There is no dream or hope or desire that cannot be fulfilled.

Spice Up Your Sex Life With Pheromone

You know, I never believed in aphrodisiacs.

Given the fact that I’ve been married for a good number of years now, and no amount of chocolates and oysters and what-have-you’s managed to convince my wife to try, uhm, something new when it comes to sexual explorations… you’d know where I’m coming from.

Hence, I always believed that aphrodisiacs were urban myths concocted by people who are either hopelessly optimistic or downright delusional. In the real world – my real world, at least – aphrodisiacs are empty boxes of false promises.

But boy, was I wrong!

Long have I heard about Pheromones and their rather amazing effects on human sexual relations, but I always grouped them with aphrodisiacs, that is, works of fiction rather than tales of facts. This, despite the growing popularity of Pheromones among my network of friends. Though some of them often mispronounce and misspell it as “Phermones,” they nonetheless have an idea on what it’s about.

Pheromone is a chemical that is produced by animals to convey certain primal messages that elicit an equally primal response. Of course, there is nothing more primal than sex. Pheromone was first observed in female silk worms which secreted Pheromones to attract the males of their specie come mating time. It has been well documented in many insects since then, and in due time, scientists have observed the same in mammals.

Pheromones serve as sexual attractants. They have a distinct smell that appeals to the most basic of instincts, particularly those of the opposite sex within the same specie.

It was only in 1986 when a group of Philadelphia scientists discovered the presence of Pheromones in humans. Women produce them, and this makes men approach them with much fervor and longing. Men produce them as well, and this results in building a connection with the females of our specie.

The problem is, Pheromone production varies from subject to subject. While some may possess an abundance of this, well, hormone of desire, others seem to suffer from a shortage of the same.

The solution?

Human Pheromone has been cultivated and perfectly integrated with oil, cologne and perfume. Since Pheromone appeals to the sense of smell, what better way to carry it than through a variety of scents?

Billy Bob, a college buddy of mine, was the first one who ordered those simply packaged bottles of Pheromone (which he still insists to this very date should be spelt as “Phermone”) perfume.

Within a week after his initial purchase, Billy Bob excitedly told us about his findings.

“It freakin’ worked!” I remember him screaming. “My wife’s not freakin’ frigid after all!” he added, still with the same enlivened delight.

I was still hesitant about Pheromone perfume, Pheromone cologne, Pheromone oil and the likes at that time, but another buddy of ours, Paul, followed Billy Bob’s cue and took the plunge. Now, Paul is quite a character. He’s not afraid to try anything. Being that he’s gay, he wanted to find out if female Pheromone would make him more attractive to guys.

Guess what?

He tried it out during his vacation in Phuket, Thailand, and he claimed that he had the time of his life. “If you know what I mean,” he coyly added.

With two of my friends claiming the exact, same thing, I shared this knowledge to my wife. To my surprise, she knew more about it than I did. Turns out that her cousin Beth, who has long endured the fear of a possible divorce, has been hailing Pheromone as the savior of her marriage. According to Beth, her husband became more adventurously amorous ever since she started wearing Pheromone perfume.

I have read about the love potion of Eros in mythological stories. I have read about love potions in Wiccan lore. I have seen so many movies from my youth involving love potions of every kind. I have always associated love potions with fiction. And I was never going to accept such as a fact… not in its original form in myths of yore, and not in what seems to be its present incarnation in Pheromone perfumes, colognes oils and the likes.

But when my wife started wearing it….

Well, suffice to say, no amount of testimonials would appease anyone’s doubts when it comes to something as seemingly magical alternative like Pheromone, or Phermone as many people call it.

But you’re missing out on some grand things if you don’t want to give it a try, I could tell you that much.

My recommendation: try it. Most establishments offering this sexual attractant offer a money back guarantee, after all. You have nothing to lose…

…and a whole new world of pleasure to gain.

Fair gamble, isn’t it?

For me, though? Who needs Viagra when my wife’s Pheromones are inviting me to come get some!

Spiral of Manifestation

The "Spiral of Manifestation" is a powerful, energy-based technique that assists you in getting "unstuck". It is a wonderful tool that you can access at any time and in any circumstance.

The Law of Attraction dictates that when energy goes out, it comes back in the same form. This is not a new theory, just one that has not been fully understood or mastered. Our thoughts and energetic patterns create our reality. Yet, are we fully aware of what we are thinking and what type of energy we are putting out? On a surface level you may "think" you are doing one thing- but on another, more powerful level- something else is actually going on. This is what creates distortions in our energy fields and causes our own power of manifestation to be stagnant. To illustrate this theory, let’s look at a couple of examples.

You want to attract a romantic partner into your life. This is a very deep desire and something that you want with all of your heart. So, you set out to accomplish this goal using spiritual principles. You use affirmations, write out a list of what you desire in a partner, light some candles and pray. On the "surface" level this seems as if it is a very positive exercise. But, for a moment- let's look at what could be happening behind the scene- on a deeper level in your energy field. What are your "true" thoughts? Why hasn't the relationship manifested? What is the hold up?
The reality is at the current moment you do not have a relationship in your life. You are lonely. When you roll over at night- there is nobody there to hold you. You go out and see all these happy couples walking around and it causes you to feel sad and envious.

You create a "battle" or distortion of energy. You keep saying and trying to think one thing- yet, another reality is showing up in your life. If you find this happening- just understand that you have some thought forms and energetic patterns that are stuck. This is creating "neutrality".

The first thing to do in this case is to be realistic. There are over 6 billion people currently living on the planet! There is someone there for you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself that only adds to the distortion. Be happy for other people that they have found an appropriate mate for themselves. You just have not met the right person yet. Period.

Use the "spiral of manifestation" to dissolve all the blocks in your energy field. When you start to feel the sad feelings come over you- visualize a beautiful spiral of energy. It can be any color or size you desire. I see it as a tornado shaped energy field. I like to see it in a luminous silver or white color because that represents purity. Just allow it to dissolve the sadness. Do not attempt to direct the energy in any way. Just allow the experience. Let the spiral cleanse and purify whatever feelings come up. Let your thoughts flow. The Creative Power of the Universe does not need your assistance. Trust in your own higher self and the unlimited power of creation to take you through this process. Let go. The Creator knows what you want and what you need. You must trust that. Get out of your own way.

Another example of this theory is that of Prosperity. You, like everyone else, wants great things. You want to be able to pay your bills and have lots of extra money left over to buy what you want. You want to provide for your family now and in the future. So, this is the goal- to increase our prosperity.
You begin doing affirmations, thinking positive and visualizing what you desire to happen. After about a week of affirmations and positive thinking- guess what? You are still broke! You just got paid and it is gone! But, you keep on saying your affirmations. The battle begins. What we are doing is not working. Why? It is not working because there is an energetic conflict. We get angry, "I keep saying all these affirmations and thinking positive thoughts and I still do not have any money". Are you really thinking positive thoughts? What is going on in your mind? Do you believe what you are saying? The anger takes us out of the natural flow.

First, be realistic! There is unlimited abundance everywhere! There is no lack! The lack resides in your mental programming. Change how you see things. When you find yourself overcome with fear about not being able to pay your bills and the money you need is just not there- call the "spiral of manifestation". See it enter your energy field- cleansing away all distortion and un-truths. Soon you will find many wonderful ideas on how you can manifest prosperity. Creativity will flow and new and exciting opportunities will present themselves to you.

Open yourself up to the Unlimited Creative Power of the Universe. Remember, there is no lack or limitation of any kind. That applies for personal relationships, money, health etc. Being in a “stuck” space uses a great deal of energy- it blocks your ability to create and causes fatigue. Once your energy field is free of blocks and distortions- you will feel more energized and creative. Use the "spiral of manifestation" to clear your mind and energy so you can receive the unlimited blessings that are available to you.

Paula Picard is a Professional Psychic and Spiritual teacher who utilizes her intuition and 20 years of experience to assist you in co-creating the life you want. Paula believes that within you is the power to manifest your desires. To learn more about Paula Picard and her Powerful work

The Game What are The Beliefs Of Top Seducers

What does it take to duplicate success?

There are 3 things involved in duplicating success.

* Beliefs
* Mental states
* mental strategies

If you duplicate these the way somebody you wish to be like you'll have the same type of results.

This can be a difficult task for some because they can not duplicate their experience. I believe that you can. Two people can have the exact same experience and produce entirely different results.

Why is this?

It's not the experience that is important but how somebody filters that experience and through these filters remembers it.

How the experts filter their experiences is the key to duplicating success. You can duplicate almost anybody's success in almost anything , picking up women, athletic ability, running a business etc...

Most of the experts aren't fully aware of what they do. You conscious mind (which is what you are aware in the present tense) is usually concerned with what you can not do well.

Your unconscious mind is which is everything else in your mind.. is in control of everything you do well.

A great example is think about learning to drive. At first you had to put ALL your concentration on it.. Remember getting behind that wheel with somebody else as they turned pale white from fear??

Now if you've been driving for a few months/years...you can listen to the radio, talk on your cellphone, eat some fast food in your lap and it won't do much to your driving ability because it's unconscious..

When I talked about the experts not usually fully aware think about the car example above. Now imagine if you had no muscle/kinesthetic feedback while driving. (that pull of your arm while turning the wheel) or something... but only visual. It could be done...but would take another few times to get used to that.

Now Beliefs are the main factors of how we filter info..

They are the Matrix. How we percieve reality.

What you get out of life is heavily dependant on what your unconscious beliefs are.

Think about the top snipers in the military.

They might have some beliefs like

* Shooting well is important for survival
* Hunting is fun
* Mental rehearsal is important to successful performance
* If I don't hit my target, it has to do with my performance

Now take the new recruits in the military who are kinda afraid of guns.

They could have some beliefs like

* Guns are evil; they kill people
* THis gun is loud when I shoot it and I can lose my hearing
* If I miss my target my gun is misaligned

Now think just on beliefs alone why the top shooters were better than the new recruits.

Let's talk about some of the beliefs of top seducers..

* It's not about being rude to other people, it's about being nice to yourself
* The strongest frame always wins
* It's my world I can do whatever I want
* It's my way, my way or the highway
* Personal space doesn't exist
* Women want men by default
* I am attractive
* I am skilled at seduction
* Always be comfortable in things that you do
* Everything is an indication of interest
* Your limitations are just your beliefs
* Women are friendly
* Nobody is watching me do this pickup
* Women LOVE sex
* women are fun
* I am HER type
* I will make her day by talking with her
* I have all the seduction tools/techniques and beliefs I need
* It's easy to connect with others

Now think about some of the beliefs I've been pointing out to others on this board..

How many of the above do you find yourself arguing with?

Think about it

Think about a workshop/ ebook /message board or anywhere you've gotten information where you learned about seduction. Did the teacher teach you his beliefs?

Some of their "techniques" might have been taught due to his belief system.(and they might not have been either) But he probably didn't teach his most important beliefs.

In addition you probably rejected a few beliefs--the ones that crashed with yours. Yet without sharing the beliefs of the person you wish to have the same success as you will never be able to get the same results.

The Law Of Attraction - Make It Work Today!

All the ancient texts and religious writtings speak of it. Poets, teachers and sages have prnouched the good news of it for thousands of years. Books have been written about it. Songs have been song about it and people have made a fortune teaching it. But do you know enough about it to use it? The Law Of Attraction is probably the most powerful Universal Principle we know of, do you think, perhaps, you should learn a little more about it and maybe even use it to create your dreams?

The Law Of Attraction at its very basic level states that everything is created by thought and that thought attracts to itself physical things, people, situations and circumstances. Your predominant thoughts are activating the Law of Attraction this very moment and bringing these things into your life!

However, we do not just create and attract the material things that enter our lives, we also create the body we occupy, the personality we display and, ultimately, the person we are and we do it all through our thoughts. Are you creating the life you desire & becoming the person you wish to be or are you like Job and bringing upon you all manner of woes because you are giving your attention to them? Perhaps you are even identifying yourself as a victim and refusing to acknowledge the Law and use it consciously!

The Law Of Attraction is not as big a Secret, as the hit movie would have you believe. Having been in existence since the very begining of time, it is an unyielding, never bending, unbreakable Uiversal Rule. You cannot escape it! There is a great body of evidence that suggests mankind has known about, and utilised, the great Law for about 7000 years. But these teachings were hidden for thousands of years by those people who wished to control the population. Through hiding the laws of the universe and the knowledge that we create our own realities these dogmatic leeches could keep all the power for themselves and ensure no-one opposed their rule. The great Law Of Attraction was actually banned in the past.

It was largely at the beginning of the 20th century that the general public started to become aware of this great law due to the diligence, fortitude, integrity and grace of writers such as James Allen (1864-1912), Napoleon Hill (1883-1970) and Charles Haanel (1866-1949).

Wallace D. Wattles, born in 1860 and died in 1911, was also a forward thinking man. In his great work "The Science of Getting Rich" Wattles states a great truth, "There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe. A thought in this substance produces the thing that is imaged by the thought." How revolutionary that statement was in 1910.

Haanel set out in a 24 part correspondence course, which is now condensed into one volume called "The Master Key System", a complete guide to successfully using the Law Of Attraction! It was banned by the Church in 1933 due to its revelations. This is allegedly the book Bill Gates read before he created Microsoft!

Napoleon Hill revealed Andrew Carnegie's great Secret to the world - that thoughts create things - when he wrote "Think & Grow Rich" in 1937 (although it had taken him 25 years to complete).

James Allen wrote his famous work in 1912 and in "As a Man Thinketh" he tells people that "mind is the master-weaver, both of the inner garment of character and the outer garment of circumstance, and that, as they may have hitherto woven in ignorance and pain they may now weave in enlightenment and happiness."

However, although the teachings have been around for thousands of years and they have been readily and easily available to the general public for almost a century the great majority of people do not take the time to learn the workings of probably the most powerful physical law in the Universe.

I think you owe it to yourself to delve deeper into this mysterious Universe and learn as much as you can about the laws that govern your life. When you truly understand the Law Of Attraction and begin to work with it for you personal advantage, I promise you, your life will change in fantastic, unexpected and unlimited ways.

Begin now to utilise this gift and construct in your imagination the life you really want to live. Seek out ways to remove your own inner resistance and limiting beliefs.

The Law of Attraction - The Secret of Success - Law of Attraction Classics:

There is in Nature a great Law -- the Law of Attraction -- by the operations of which all things -- from atoms to men -- are attracted toward each other in the degree of the common affinity of common use.

The reverse of this law -- which is merely another manifestation of its power -- is what is called Repulsion, which is but the other pole of Attraction, and by the operations of which things tend to repel each other in the degree that they are unlike, opposing, and of no use to each other.

The Law of Attraction is Universal, on all the planes of life, from the physical to the spiritual. Its operations are uniform and constant, and we may take the phenomena of one plane and thereby study the phenomena of another plane, for the same rule applies in each case -- the same Law is in operation in the same way.

Beginning with the tiny corpuscles, electrons, or ions, of which the atoms are formed, we find manifested the Law of Attraction -- certain electrons attract each other, and repel others still, thereby causing to spring into existing groups, combinations and colonies of electrons which being in agreement and harmony manifest and constitute what are called atoms, which until recently were supposed to be the primal form of matter.

Passing on the atoms themselves, we find many degrees of affinity and attraction existing between them which cause them to combine and form into molecules of which all masses of matter consists.

For instance, every drop of water is composed of countless molecules of water. And each molecule is composed of two atoms of Hydrogen and one atom of Oxygen --the combination always being the same in every molecule of water. Now, why do these atoms combine in just this way -- with the same invariable grouping and proportion? Not by chance, surely, for there is no such thing in Nature -- there is a natural law back of every phenomenon.

And in this case it is the Law of Attraction manifesting in the case of these atoms. And it is so in all chemical combinations --it is called Chemical Affinity. Sometimes an attached atom will come in contact with, or in proximity to, another atom, and then bang goes the explosion of the molecule as the atom flies away from its partners and into the arms of the other atom for which it has a greater affinity. There are marriages and divorces in the world of atoms, you will notice.

And in the cases of the molecules, it is found that certain molecules are attracted to others of the same kind, under what is called Cohesion, and thus masses of matter are composed. A piece of gold, silver, tin, glass, or other form of matter is composed of countless molecules held together tightly by Cohesion -- and this Cohesion is merely another form of the Law of Attraction -- the same that draws all things together.

And, underlying the Law of Attraction is to be found our old Principle of Desire and Will. You may shrug your shoulders at this mention of desire and Will in connection with electrons, atoms, molecules -- all forms of matter, but just wait a bit and see what the leading scientific authorities have to say on the subject.

Prof. Hakel, one of the world's greatest scientists -- a materialist who would sneer at the teachings of Mental Science -- even this man, naturally prejudiced against mentalist theories, finds himself compelled to say: ``The idea of chemical affinity consists in the fact that the various chemical elements perceive the qualitative differences in other elements -- experience pleasure of revulsion at contact with them, and execute specific movements on this ground.''

He also positively and distinctly states that in the atoms there must be something corresponding to Desire for contact and association with other atoms, and Will to enable the atom to respond to the Desire Law is constant throughout Nature, from atom to man --physical, mental and spiritual.

But what has all this to do with the Secret of Success you may ask? Simply, that the Law of Attraction is an important part in the Secret of Success, inasmuch as it tends to bring to us the things, persons and circumstances in accordance with our earnest Desire, Demand, and Will, just as it brings together the atoms and other particles of matter. Make yourself an atom of Living Desire and you will attract to yourself the person, things and circumstances fitting in with the accomplishment of your Desire.

You will also get into rapport with those who are working along the same lines of thought, and will be attracted to them and they to you, and you will be brought into relations with persons, things and environments likely to work out the problem of your Desires -- you will get ``next to'' the right persons and things - all by the operation of this great natural Law of Attraction. No Necromancy or Magic about it at all -- nothing supernatural or mysterious -- just the operations of a great Natural Law.

The Law Of Attraction And Relationships

Have you ever had the experience of a stranger coming out of the blue and having a piece of information that you needed? Have you ever been steered away from making a mistake by a friend or stranger in the right place at the right time? Can you recall what this felt like?

Have you ever sensed your role in another person's manifestation of an experience? You perhaps gave them something, or did something that felt right for you and for them was an uncanny coincidence. Have you ever found yourself in the right place to provide something important for another person? Perhaps you felt compelled to talk to a stranger and you had the piece of information they were looking for?

I call this interplay between individuals 'Dancing.' We dance with others during every day of our lives. When we are open and willing, we participate and assist in the manifestation of their experience and others do the same for us. Some of these experiences are positive, and we feel like we are in the very flow of life. Other experiences are more challenging, or even negative, and can leave us questioning how we came to attract such a negative or painful experience into our lives.

Law of Attraction and Relationships:

As a therapist, coach and individual, I have come to understand the Law of Attraction as an extremely powerful force which effects our lives, whether or not we are aware of how it is working at any one time. Simply put, what we give our focus, emotion, and attention, we attract into our lives. Moving towards deliberate attraction requires an awareness of our intention, attention and emotional state. In a sense, we move from subconsciously creating events in our lives to consciously and deliberately affecting our experience.

When talking about the law of attraction in relationships, several questions come up. These include: Can we attract a specific person into our lives? Am I responsible - did I attract - this abuse from my colleague, partner, friend, or family member? How can I attract the relationship I want?

One of the issues these questions have in common is a search for where our responsibility ends and another person's begins.

Matching (Picking our Partners)

Everyone that you attract into our lives and engage with, are a match to something that you are vibrating at either a conscious or subconscious level.

If we want to know what you are vibrating, look at who you are attracting. It is a perfect match!

There are different kinds of matches to our vibrations. The most obvious is when we get a similar match.

Ideally, we want to feel empowered, optimistic and joyful and attract other empowered and optimistic people to us in all aspects of our life. When this happens, there is a sharing and connection that feels wonderful. It is a perfect match!

When feeling down, (low vibration), you may attract a friend who calls to complain about all the things they are down about. In this case, our low vibration is attracting someone of similar vibration. We will often engage with the person and stay at that low vibration or perhaps collectively go lower. How does this feel?

Other Matches

Have you ever had a friend or client stuck in a 'victim vibration' who seemed to attract abusive partners in their romantic or business relationships? Their vibration as a victim can be a match to a potential abuser. A second match to the 'victim vibration' is the rescuer. Rescuers, victims and abusers create what we know as the 'victim' or 'drama' triangle. These three roles vibrate matches to each other and individuals often get stuck moving from point to point in the triangle. In one relationship they may be the victim. IN the next, they mat be the rescuer or the abuser.

For example, many of the youth I have worked with in custody fall into this trap. They are often violent to 'rescue' a friend or to avenge a wrong. When caught, they feel victimized by police. When sentenced to custody, they feel like a victim of the justice system. They talk about getting even (offender role), blaming others for their situation (victim role) and wanting to stay with their boy or girl friend to keep them from getting into trouble (rescuer role). They continue to attract the same three matches into their lives and custody becomes a revolving door.

There are other less obvious variations of this triangle. Chronically sick individuals, very desperate or needy people, often vibrate matches for people who try to help them or use them in some way.

DRAMA TRIANGLE

Vulnerability

Most children and many adults live their lives unconscious of the law of attraction and the many other forces at work in creating their experience. Such people are unaware of the effect of their attention, focus and emotions. Their energy may be scattered rather than focussed and their emotions may be mixed and reactive. Such people are 'vulnerable' and can become unconscious participants in the more focussed and deliberate manifestation of others.

We know that most offenders pick their victims. This is a fact. They unconsciously or consciously match vulnerable children, adults, (banks etc.) at an intuitive level. Younger children, the elderly, or adults with disabilities are often chosen for this reason. Children, and some adults are then vulnerable to become part of a more deliberate plan and action by someone with greater intention, emotion and focus.

In addition, there are individuals who use these same laws of attraction to manifest power for themselves, or harm to others. They believe they are right, entitled, or are unconsciously driven to such experiences. In some cases their focus is collective and extremely powerful. Terrorists and other fear-based organizations are examples of this dynamic.

Free Choice

I once had a very amazing conversation with a Native teacher about the three concepts of destiny, potential, and free choice. To the best of my recollection, this is how he defined these concepts.

Destiny: Is an opportunity to fulfill a life's purpose. It is a predetermined circumstance that will manifest at some point in life. Some Native groups believe that we are born with predestined challenges that were agreed upon by our ancestors before our birth. Other Native groups believe that there are 'deals' made with other souls before birth to be part of their enlightenment challenge here on earth.

Potential: When we are challenged, the experience has the potential to be a powerful healing or destructive force. If we rise to the challenge and act out of integrity and grace, we heal both present and past issues related to the event. If we fail the challenge, we hurt ourselves and others involved.

Free Choice: We all have free choice. This is why we cannot attract a person to us who does not want to engage with us. We choose whom we engage with and we choose our actions.

We attract matches into our lives. It is our choice to engage with them or not. We are responsible for our actions. They are responsible for what they choose to do.

As we become more aware, we can also consider matches and experiences as powerful information and feedback as to what we are vibrating. We can also choose to engage or not engage, stay or leave. We can also choose to use this information to move ourselves to a different level of vibration.

Implications for Law Of Attraction Practitioners

Working with Others

Many of my coaching and counseling clients have been engaged in some form of the drama triangle (above). I have found the Law of Attraction tools to be very helpful in teaching an awareness of their emotions and how they are affecting their experience. They can learn that when they are in a 'poor me,' or 'victim' vibration, they are going to attract matches and choose to engage or not. They also learn the importance of changing their vibration and witnessing a change in the people they attract. By choosing a different vibration, they become empowered and even begin to heal!

Implications for Practitioners and Coaches

For law of attraction practitioners and coaches, we put out the intention of assisting others and attract such experiences to ourselves in the form of clients. We offer ourselves as 'helpers' for individuals who are choosing to manifest events in their lives. This experience is often very intuitive and joyful. We feel like we are in the flow of life.

Have you also experienced this intention bubbling over to experiences outside of you practice as well?

At times, we will attract people who will want to elevate us to heroes and rescuers. They will say things like "no-one understands me but you." "Without you I would be lost…." They want direct advice - for you to make the decisions. This however, does not empower, it keeps them in their comfortable 'victim' role. Counselors and coaches may become seduced into the role of rescuer and join the client in the drama triangle. How might this impact our lives outside of the office?

In Closing

As law of attraction practitioners and coaches, we can share powerful information and tools to empower others to make their own decisions and assume a new kind of responsibility in their relationships. We can empower others to dance with grace and integrity towards joyful and fulfilling relationships!

The Law of Attraction and the News

I’ve read a very good book “Influence” by Robert Cialdini. I started reading the book because of my interest in marketing, but in the chapter “Social Proof” I’ve found something very interesting connected with manifestation and the law of attraction.

In this chapter Dr Cialdini gives interesting statistics: immediately after highly publicized suicide stories the number of people who die in commercial-airline crashes increases by 1,000 percent. The number of people who die in car crashes increases dramatically as well.

The author analyzes the reasons why so many people die in crashes after highly publicized suicides. The first suggestion is that people commit suicides because of stressful socio-economic conditions. While some people commit suicides in such conditions, the others because of stress, become angry or nervous or impatient or distracted and cause fatal crashes.

But the socio-economic conditions are not the reason. The increase in accidents happens only in places where the suicides are highly publicized. In the places with the same conditions or even worst, if the suicides are not publicized, there is no increase in airplane and car crashes.

Another suggestion is that usually the suicides of famous and respected people are most publicized. This makes people so sad that they become careless around cars and airplanes. It’s a “bereavement” explanation. But from the statistics we know that “newspaper stories reporting on suicide victims who died alone produce an increase in the frequency of single-fatality wrecks only, whereas stories reporting on suicide-plus-murder incidents produce an increase in multiple-fatality wrecks only” (Influence p.141) We can clearly see that plane and car crashes are influenced by suicide stories, not by social conditions or sadness caused by deaths of respected people.

Another explanation comes from David Phillips and Dr Cialdini finds it brilliant. It’s called “Werther effect”. Werther is a hero from Johann von Goethe’s novel “The Sorrows of Young Werther” In the book the hero Werther commits suicide. The book had strong influence on many young people in Europe two centuries ago. Many people committed suicide, copying Werther. The book was banned in several countries.

According to Phillips some people kill themselves in imitation. Others who for different reasons, like reputations, insurance policies etc., decide to crash airplanes or cars to make their suicides look accidental.

There is more interesting information in Cialdini’s book, but there’s no space in this article to write about it. For most scientists David Phillips’ explanation seems the best one. Of course there are some quantum physicists now who find the law of attraction the best explanation for sharp increase in plane and car crashes after highly publicized suicides.

According to the law of attraction we attract what we mostly think about. When someone commits suicide and there’s a lot about it in the news, people think about it, become emotional, think about death and attract death. Of course I can’t scientifically prove the law of attraction, but I’m personally convinced that we attract the things we think about a lot, especially with emotion and when we worry about something.

About fifteen years ago when I traveled in India with a group of friends, two of my friends after reading about all bacteria and amoebas which can cause serious illnesses became very afraid of drinking water. We were all careful, but my two friends became so afraid that they used bottled water even to clean their teeth. The rest of us enjoyed traveling in India and didn’t worry about amoebas. When we came back to Europe, my “worried” friends became sick and amoeba was found in their bodies. They wowed never to go to India again. The rest of us was fine, we didn’t attract amoeba. Was it an accident that only my two “worried” friends got ill?

Later I moved to Thailand, where I felt very safe. I didn’t worry about any dangers, because I’d heard from other foreigners that is a very safe place and my experience was the same. Later when I got cable TV, I also got a free subscription of the local newspaper, so I started reading it every day. Then I learned about fighting between students of vocational schools, when they not only sometimes kill each other, but also accidentally innocent people on the street sometimes die during the fights. I learned about suicides, murders and robberies. I was pretty shocked and not knowing about the law of attraction started thinking that it’s not really such a safe place. Soon I saw a fight with knives between students on the bus I was traveling. I saw drivers fighting on the street. I started seeing more fights and aggression than ever before. Clearly I started attracting what I read about in the papers. Or was it just an accident?


When I learned about Manifestation and the Law of Attraction I stopped reading the newspapers regularly. I read them rarely. I sometimes watch the news, but I don’t allow my mind to dwell on murders and suicides. You might think that it’s bad and that I don’t feel compassion for human suffering, but I think that dwelling on tragedies brings more tragedies. People talk a lot about war against terrorism, drugs and crime, and we have more terrorism, drugs and crime. Of course terrorism, drugs and crime must be eliminated, but by dwelling on them I personally can’t eliminate them I can only attract them into my life, which I don’t want.

“Where is light, there is no darkness”. We can’t remove darkness, but when we bring light there is no darkness. We can replace negative things with positive things. I’m not talking here about being naïve or foolish and not seeing the reality, but to change my current situation I need first to change my mental state. I need to think positively, and reading the news about crime, suicides and wars won’t improve my life. It makes me depressed and stressed, and brings more depression and stress into my life, so I’ve made a decision to concentrate on positive emotions.

You don’t have to believe in the law of attraction. There’s no need for scientific proof. You can make an experiment. Stop reading about the bad news and try to read more about happy things. Avoid reading about crime, suicides and violence. Read more about great and successful people. Watch more comedies than violent movies. Continue your experiment for some time and you’ll see the difference in your life.

The Law Of Attraction Doesn't Understand 'Don't, Not or No'

Have you ever wondered why sometimes we get something that we really didn't want in our lives? People often tell me, "I didn't ask for THAT!"

In fact, some people think that the Law of Attraction 'isn't working for me' when they attract something they didn't want into their life--but it is. You see, the Law of Attraction doesn't hear the words 'don't, not or no' (as in,

'I don't want that.' 'That's not what I want.' 'No more of this!') it only responds to your feelings (your vibes) about that subject. If thinking about a certain situation causes you to feel upset, the Law of Attraction sends you MORE upsetting situations.

Here's a story sent to me by a reader, that demonstrates what I mean:

I went to a charity event last night (for which I paid $50) and then I donated another $20 for raffle tickets for various prizes. The idea was to put your ticket into the bowl that represented the prize you wanted. Well, none of the prizes were exciting to me. I put my ticket into the bowl that seemed the best of the three. And as I did so, I said to myself, 'I' really hope I don't win this silly haircut.' Then I realized there were more than three prizes and I felt disappointed that I had put my ticket into that bowl, but it was too late to take it back. So, as they were calling the prize winners I again said 'I' don't want that haircut.' When they read out my number I was so disbelieving that I had to ask them to repeat the number because I could not believe that I had won it - especially because I had said so clearly, 'I don't want it!' - well you know the ending of this story. I focused on it, said "don't" and focused on it again. DUH!! Now the fact is, it is a nice prize and I will use it - what was I thinking?
Sometimes I use the illustration of the Internet Search Engines--if you go to www.goolge.ca and type in the words 'no porn'--what will you get? That's right--PORN. The Search Engines don't understand Don't give me--they just understand porn.

So, if I don't want something, how do I avoid attracting it into my life?

By answering this simple question: 'If I don't want this . . . what do I want?'

Sometimes it takes a while to formulate a positive answer to that question, but taking the time to do so is the ONLY way to stop attracting what you don't want.

If I don't want clients who are late for our sessions, what do I want? I want clients who are on time or early.

If I don't want to chase after clients to be paid for my services, what do I want? I want clients who joyfully pay by credit card or E-check for my services--on time or early.

If I fail to get clear about what I DO want, according to the Law of Attraction, I will attract that which I don't want into my life again and again--for until I place my focus on something else, what I don't want IS (by default) my focus.

Can you think of something that has been occurring in your life, over and over again? If so, take a few minutes--just 5 or 10 minutes and do this exercise:

1. Write down on paper what this reoccurring event is. State what happens and how it makes you feel.

2. Then ask the question: If I don't want that to happen again, what DO I want to happen? or If I don't want to feel like that again, what DO I want to feel like?

Get a picture in your mind, an idea or a feeling for how you would like it to be. Find the words that most accurately express what you want and write them down on paper. Doing this will engage all your senses to such a degree that you will automatically begin to attract events and situations that are more enjoyable.

The Problem Client - Or Did I Ignore My Gut Feeling?

Have you ever had that gut feeling when interviewing a potential client that something is 'off'? But because you had no 'evidence' of what it was, you went ahead and agreed to work with them. Just in case you are the one person out there who hasn't, let me set the scene.

Client Jones contacted me for a resume. I politely exchanged chitchat on his goals, intention for the project and content that would be pertinent. We agreed on a price and Client Jones decided to hire me. I emailed him the homework assignment to gather the information needed.

Fast forward one month. Being the good business person that I am -
I followed up. Client Jones replies that life has gotten in the way of his completing his homework, but he is still working on it and will get it back to me shortly. At this point I HAD THAT FEELING IN MY GUT THAT THIS ISN'T GOING TO WORK OUT, but I told myself that I can't just dismiss Client Jones --that wouldn't be good business. So I hoped for the best and kept him on as a client.

Now, a significant amount of time has passed and I am preparing to leave on vacation. Client Jones calls again, just three days before I am out the door. You guessed it -he needs his project finished quickly -in three days. I politely explained I was leaving on vacation and that I didn't have time to take on his project before I would leave. I politely explained again, and again, but before I hung up the phone I had agreed to rush his project through to accommodate him.

Of course, at the same time I was wondering what part of "no" the client did not understand, where I was going to get the extra time to complete this project, and I felt very unhappy with myself for giving in.

Are you still with me? Those of you who have encountered Client Jones are nodding and I can almost see the steam escaping from your head. Those of you that haven't, hang on, there is a point to this story.

I am now committed to work overtime to get this project done. But I can tell I am resisting the task. However, I put my heart and energy into making this document not only good, but great and even get it done within the tight time constraints.

As I email this project to Client Jones, I feel really good having accomplished superwoman feats and I feel as though I could jump tall buildings with a single bound if asked to.

And then I get the call from Client Jones. My heart sinks just by the tone of his voice. He relays that he is disappointed with the outcome and that major revisions would be necessary. Ouch! That stung. Without getting defensive I asked, "Can you give me an example of what you mean by that statement?"

Client Jones cannot exactly point out any particular verbiage or example that is less than perfect. He says it just doesn't feel right to him. So again, trying to keep in mind that losing my temper would not help the situation I inquired, "Could you give me some specifics so that I might better understand what you think would be a clearer statement?" (Caution: do not take your temperature at this point in time - the mercury could burst.)

Before noon on Friday I receive an email with what was supposed to be the help I needed to get the client's perspective of how he wanted his resume to showcase him. I pulled up the document with anticipation, hoping for the clue to get inside his head. The document I pulled up was his old resume, the old wording, the old format, and very few changes, ones I could not even begin to grasp as making a difference in the overall resume. My heart sank again. (At this time I was considering putting my heart on a yo-yo string so that I could pull it back up as quickly as it sank because this was happening way too often with this client.)

With critical time passing I did the next best thing and left my office to get my hair and nails done - what any woman would do before leaving on vacation. Right? I have often wondered how men manage that last day in the office.

Time check… it is now 3:30, ask me if I care about Client Jones. I look beautiful, well okay, I look better than when I walked out of the office, well passable on the street and not scaring small children on the sidewalk. When I get back to the office I decided that no amount of money is worth trying to fix this project, especially because Client Jones perception of a good resume and mine were as far away in distance as California from New York. I determined there was no amount of rewriting that could make this person happy and I was not willing to spend the Friday night before vacation trying to do so.

I make the dreaded call (heart is now attached to the yo-yo string). "Client Jones, thank you for following up with me after your meeting this afternoon. I trust everything went well? Good. I have to be honest with you. I carefully reviewed the document you sent back to me and it actually appeared to be your old resume with a few changes on it. Oh, it was your original resume. Oh, you didn't have time to really work out the changes that you wanted? Oh, I see. Yes, it is difficult to pull words out of the air to describe that (however, I have a few for you which I will keep to myself). Client Jones, after reviewing what you emailed over and the document I produced for you I realized that we are not on the same wavelength (this could be a Venus/Mars thing - but we won't even go there - save that topic for another Oprah). That rarely happens with my clients, however, I attribute it to trying to rush this project through within a short time frame, not having enough time to interact with you to get the true essence of how you felt best to portray your talents, etc. I just don't see how we can get this resume changed into the document you would prefer before I need to leave." Client Jones agrees.

What happened next? I graciously fired the client, refunded partial payment (Client Jones and I agreed that I should be compensated for my valiant efforts) and then packed for vacation. Moral of the story: don't take on a Client Jones before you leave on vacation. Listen to your head/heart/stomach or any other body parts that are telling you this will be a problem - because - it will be a problem. Of course I'm happy now because I'm now on vacation. My head left Friday afternoon, my other body parts are catching up and should arrive soon.

I swear, next time I get that sinking feeling in my stomach, I'm going to honor it by telling the Client, "You know, I just have the feeling that I'm not the best person to work on this for you. I have a colleague who I believe can serve you better. Here's his number..." How sweet it is when I listen to my gut feelings. How exhausting it becomes when I don't!